Confidential Counseling for Military Families and Individuals can
help . . .
● Prior to deployment
● After a long or repeated separation
● When there are arguments, frustrations and marital problems
● When you don't seem like the same people you were before deployment
● When you are at a loss for how to communicate with each other
Families that reunite after a long separation due to deployment face stresses that can strain marital stability. Both of you don't seem like the same people you were before deployment. You may be worried about your child who is acting up, and seemingly out of control. Your husband may be yelling, scaring the kids and you, and thinking he is only raising his voice. It may seem like he doesn't understand the way you parent the kids and what works. You may be at a loss for how tocommunicate with him.
Having worked with many military families, I'm aware that the dreams of what it would be like when the family reunited don't always turn out to be the same as they were imagined. The person who left feels lost in a family that has learned to go on without him or her. The children have grown up while he or she was away. The mom or dad who stayed behind grew in new directions as a parent and as an adult. Everyone feels hurt and wonders if they can survive as a family together.
I help by seeing everyone in the room together and not assuming any one person is the cause of all the problems. I work collaboratively with families and couples to support you in the ways you want to grow and to rediscover each other. Sometimes the work involves the whole family. Sometimes the work involves the couple. Often both kinds of meetings are helpful to a family. How we work together will depend upon your hopes and dreams for your family and your future.